Some of Life’s Greatest Lessons Do Go Up in Smoke - And That’s a Good Thing!

Dear Universe…Please help me to learn how to nurture my own heart and to remember that I am a good person. Please help me to not sweat the small things in life and to always know that I am loved and supported….


I consider myself a constant student where my spirituality and work with Spirit is concerned. I feel that there are most certainly things that I can teach and share with/to others, but I also know that I am on a journey just like everyone else. I feel that simple sentence is what keeps me grounded, makes me a good teacher, and keeps me loving the life that I am living.

This past week has been one that has reminded me of past lessons learned, but has also helped me to remember to practice what I preach. I often chuckle out loud when I have those moments in which Spirit lovingly (and sometimes LOUDLY!) reminds me to take my own advice… “just give whatever ways on you to the Universe/God/Spirit…”

It’s hard to let go of things that cause frustration, hurt, or sadness. For some reason, I think we, as a society, often feel the need to hold onto those things so that the next frustration, hurt, or sadness won’t be so bad. Almost as though they’ll somehow prepare us in advance for “next time” and in reality, what happens is those emotions just end up building up higher and higher until we have no more room.

There is a wonderful piece of advice that one of my dear Mentors had given me that deals with letting things go and just giving your worries to something or someone so much “bigger.” I only hope that I can recount her story with as much strength and unconditionally love as she had once told me.

“When your heart is breaking, when your soul is aching, when life just doesn’t seem fair; take a moment – step back from the situation and breath. And if need be, keep breathing until you can find even the smallest place in your mind that is quiet.

Now, take a piece of paper or sit down at your computer and just write.

Write every feeling, every thought, and every emotion that is inside of your body, mind, and soul. Let every word just come out – let out the anger, let out the sadness, let out the frustration…express yourself and be true to yourself in the most unconditional way possible.

And when you get to the point where you feel that you just can’t write or type another word…take another deep breath or two, and then continue writing.

Believe it or not, you WILL finally come to a place of peace and when you’ve found that place of peace, gently re-read the emotions. Heck, even consider re-reading them out loud so that every ounce of your being can hear what you have been bottling up inside that beautiful body and mind of yours!

Most likely, you will be shocked and surprised at the rawness of each word, each sentence, each thought – and that’s okay. We are always the last ones to really take-in how painful life can be sometimes.

Now take those emotions that you have dispensed out onto your paper and in a safe place burn what you have purged out. Watch closely as those emotions virtually dissipate right in front of you and feel the weight just falling off your shoulders. Feel how wonderful it is to have the knot in your stomach released and how the heart ache that was once so heavy on your heart, has now lifted and you are truly free.

Trust and know that all of those emotions are now in the hands of something or someone so much bigger, so much stronger, so loving and supportive…you will never ever need or have a use for those emotions again.

And that, my friend, is how you free your heart and soul to make room for the abundance and intentions that I know you work so diligently to ask the Universe/God/Spirit to bring into your life and those around you.”


So this “student” has taken her own advice and spent the later portion of this week releasing, letting go, and making peace. This “student” will never again look her feelings as “silly” or not valid – but will look at those emotions as great life lessons that can be released at any point for her highest and best good.